This will be a quick post, due to family time over the weekend.

Even though same-sex marriage is legal in numerous countries, traditionalists continue to tell the world that these marriages are not a good place to raise children.

It may be hard to convince our own children of this point of view. They may tell us that our opinions are judgmental and ill-informed. After all, they’ve lived in a post-sexual revolution world all their lives and they know nothing else.

But traditionalists have one important, late-breaking advantage: The sexual revolution is no longer new.

In its honeymoon days, it looked smart, fun and free. Fifty years later, its fruits are visible. The children of the free-love pioneers are now adults. They are old enough to express their own opinions about their childhoods.

Adults who were raised in same-sex relationships say they love their parents and (some of) their parents’ partners. But they insist that they missed out on love, attention and safety. They insist that this is what happens when the household is oriented to adults’ needs and wishes, not children’s.

You can read their accounts yourself:

Out from Under by Dawn Stefanowicz (which I have finished).

Jephthah’s Children by Robert Oscar Lopez (which I’m still working through).

Photo credits:

Adorable child:   Rosa Dik 009 — catching up ! on Best Running / CC BY-NC-SA

Woodstock flutist:  brizzle born and bred on Best Running/ CC BY-NC